Loving Our Bodies
“When we are in a right relationship with God, our bodies become a vehicle for accessing our joy, rather than an idol to lift up or tear down.”
-Rebecca Boskovic
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“He loves me.
He loves me not.
He loves me.
He loves me not.”
Do you recall that childhood game with the daisy flower?
I have a very specific memory of standing in the backyard of a childhood friend’s house, thinking about this certain boy I had a crush on … hoping that the last petal to be picked would be “he loves me”.
How about our love for ourselves … does it also rest on chance?
Do you play this game with yourself as an adult? … always wondering on any particular day, which petal you’ll be left holding?
I love me.
I love me not.
This kind of existence, of finding our worth in the fleeting moment of how we feel or based on the opinions of others often stems from being raised under the roof of Conditional Love.
If you were taught to
work for love
earn affection
wait to be acknowledge
then you might see All Love as conditional — dependent on the opinion or blessing of someone else.
And this includes your body.
Are you looking for someone to tell you:
you look so pretty today
I love your new outfit
you’ve lost weight, haven’t you
If you are, there’s bad news and good news.
The bad news is that if you stick with this way of thinking, how you see your body will always depend on the outside world.
The good news is that you can learn new ways of thinking, so that how you see your body remains in the hands of the only person whose opinion matters — your own.
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Here are three things you can do today to begin to make peace with the woman in the mirror:
Ask yourself if you are living the world from the outside-in or the inside-out. The more you can transition to looking at the world through how you see it (inside-out) rather than how you think the world sees you (outside-in), the happier you’ll be.
Begin to question the assumptions you carry around with yourself of how you think the world sees you. Any time you think you know what someone else is thinking about you, ask yourself: “But HOW do I know what this other person thinks of me?” [Hint: unless they told you, you probably won’t].
Start to take charge of the one body that belongs to you and that you have control over. Do this by exercising daily — if you don’t know where to start, begin with a minimum daily 20 minute walk.
Loving our bodies begins with owning how we see them.
If you need help doing that, give me a call.
-Coach Rebecca